Unless you actually backed into someone’s Honda, stop saying it. You are not sorry for having a different opinion. You are not sorry for taking the last piece of cake. You are not sorry for leaving the party at 9:15 because your back hurts and the music is too loud. “No” is a complete sentence. “I don’t want to” is a close second.
By Terry McMillan’s fictional best friend (and yours, too)
— From the editors of 50 Something Magazine. Because you’re not old. You’re experienced. 50 something mag
Then one morning, somewhere around 52, you wake up at 3:47 a.m. to pee for the second time, stub your toe on the nightstand, and realize: I don’t want to be less anymore. I want to be obnoxiously, gloriously, inconveniently more. Here is what nobody tells you about the second half: It is not a decline. It is a rebellion.
This next act doesn’t require a costume. It requires a megaphone and a very low tolerance for nonsense. Unless you actually backed into someone’s Honda, stop
I should exercise more. I should call that person back. I should want a promotion. Should is a four-letter word invented by people who sell planners. This decade is for want and won’t . I want to read on the couch for three hours. I won’t feel guilty about it. Try it. It’s terrifying for the first ten minutes. Then it’s heaven.
So go ahead. Be too much. Be too loud. Be too honest. Be too happy. You are not sorry for leaving the party
For the first fifty years, the equation was simple: Subtract the belly from the brunch. Subtract the opinion from the meeting if you want to keep your job. Subtract the need, the noise, the nerve. We were trained to fold ourselves into smaller, quieter, more digestible versions of who we actually were. Wear the beige. Laugh at the joke that wasn’t funny. Apologize for the parking spot. Apologize for existing in a room.
I stopped dyeing my hair last spring. Not because I suddenly “embraced my inner silver fox” (barf), but because I ran out of f*cks the same week I ran out of root touch-up. My stylist asked if I was sure. I said, “Watch this.” And then I went to brunch. Nobody died. In fact, a 28-year-old told me I looked “powerful.” I wanted to hug her and also ask if she knew where I left my reading glasses.
Because here’s the real truth, darling:
Let’s talk about the math of midlife for a second.